So you are sitting alone, it is Saturday night, and you have nothing to look forward to but the pizza delivery, a can of beer and the box. The world’s beautiful people seem a world away, in the clubs, pubs and fashionable places. Everybody seems to have somebody - except you. And why? You ask yourself, perfectly ordinary, really nice guy, but relationships don’t last, women dump on you more time than you can count, and you are left wondering, why do you even bother to care?
I can answer the last part, first. You bother because you are a nice guy, and because you want the perfectly ordinary things in life, a relationship, someone in your life who cares and you can care for. It is that simple, and unfortunately the crux of the problem. Have you ever noticed that all the girls you seem to like, always fall for the wrong types of guys - the not-nice ones? I know it seems that way, and no matter how nice you seem to be about it, you just know these girls that you like, are going to be hurt, and yet they still don’t seem to notice you. Okay, well now it is time to do something about it.
I can answer the last part, first. You bother because you are a nice guy, and because you want the perfectly ordinary things in life, a relationship, someone in your life who cares and you can care for. It is that simple, and unfortunately the crux of the problem. Have you ever noticed that all the girls you seem to like, always fall for the wrong types of guys - the not-nice ones? I know it seems that way, and no matter how nice you seem to be about it, you just know these girls that you like, are going to be hurt, and yet they still don’t seem to notice you. Okay, well now it is time to do something about it.
First, lets do a quick check-list. First off all hygiene, are you freshly showered, clean and tidy, check. Are you dressed in clothing suitable for your look, check. This is an important point, because you can’t all look like Jean Claude Van Damme or Robbie Williams, but you can look as good as you can. Now, before you run out of the door to find Ms Right, ask yourself a few questions. Firstly, what are you honestly looking for? Be realistic.
Next, where are you looking? If you are a quiet chap who loves
to read or spend time on the computer, is it really a good idea to go to the nightclub to find your soul mate? Girls that go to nite-spots regularly and enjoy drinking and the ‘high-life’, are not going to stop just because they have you. If you prefer parks, your soul-mate is not going to be in the disco. Think about where you are looking for your friend, because number one, for a relationsip to last, that is what she is going to have to be.
Lastly, be happy with yourself. It really doesn’t matter what you look like, or what you do for a living, what honestly counts is that you are happy in your skin. If you like who you are, then others will be attracted to that, and in time, one of those will be your life partner. Be a friend, Be yourself, and your time will come. Meanwhile have fun with your life, it's too short to waste.
Next, where are you looking? If you are a quiet chap who loves
to read or spend time on the computer, is it really a good idea to go to the nightclub to find your soul mate? Girls that go to nite-spots regularly and enjoy drinking and the ‘high-life’, are not going to stop just because they have you. If you prefer parks, your soul-mate is not going to be in the disco. Think about where you are looking for your friend, because number one, for a relationsip to last, that is what she is going to have to be.
Lastly, be happy with yourself. It really doesn’t matter what you look like, or what you do for a living, what honestly counts is that you are happy in your skin. If you like who you are, then others will be attracted to that, and in time, one of those will be your life partner. Be a friend, Be yourself, and your time will come. Meanwhile have fun with your life, it's too short to waste.
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