FREE LOVE

MARRIAGE PARTNERSHIP

2009-12-07T02:50:00.000-08:00

The institution of marriage is a sacred bond that has grown and evolved throughout time. And keeping a marriage special and in-tact requires both hard work and faith. That’s where Marriage Partnership come in, providing practical Christian help for today's married couples. Providing spiritual and emotional advice for both men and women, this magazine can help you keep your marriage vital and healthy, as God intended it to be.

FRIENDSHIP STYLE

2009-12-07T02:42:00.000-08:00

I left this thing quite a while but blogthings dot com still one of my favorite thing to hang around and having fun with the quizzes, nothing to believe, just fun!

You take every friendship you have seriously, and you spend a lot of time analyzing your friends.You've thought a lot about what it means to be a good friend, and you hold yourself to your standard.In return, you expect your friends to be loyal, honest, and real. You're somewhat picky about who you're friends with.Fighting with your friends bothers you more than most people. You can't stop replaying arguments over and over in your head.You and an Empathetic Friend: Try to understand one another. You approach life very differently, but you're willing to listen to one another.You and a Gregarious Friend: Are a better match than expected. You understand and appreciate your Gregarious Friend's energy.You and an Independent Friend: Get along pretty well, but you can't help but think your Independent Friend needs to learn better manners!You and another Philosophical Friend: Are friends for life. You can get lost in your intense, interesting conversations... and maybe even change the world together!
Thank You!

DATING STYLE

2009-12-07T02:28:00.000-08:00

Dating Style, Part 1:

Meet the sexy bachelor and the 3 single ladies competing for the date. Then watch as each lady probes through the bachelor's closet, trying to read what they can about that person from their clothing.

Dating Style, Part 2:

Can shopping lead to love? The ladies compete for the date by shopping for a his/her outfit combo to wear on the date: one outfit for the bachelor and one for themselves. See each lady's approach to shopping for a bachelor they have never met.

Dating Style, Part 3:

The 3 outfit combos are revealed to the bachelor. Does he like any of them? Does he have a favorite? Tune in to find out.

Dating Style, Part 4:

Can the clothes determine who the best match will be? Without having seen the 3 contestants, the bachelor selects who to take onthe date by choosing his favorite his/her outfit combo. Then follow along on the date...

LOVE LETTER

2009-12-07T01:50:00.001-08:00

Bibash Dong (1779- 1998) led a short but Nepal life. At the age of 23 he met and fell in love with Fanny Brawne, literally the girl next door. Tragically, doctors had already diagnosed the tuberculosis which would eventually kill him, so their marriage became an impossibility. This letter, written from Rome less than one year before his death, displays Keats' intense and unwavering love for her.

March 2002

Sweetest Fanny,

You fear, sometimes, I do not love you so much as you wish? My dear Girl I love you ever and ever and without reserve. The more I have known you the more have I lov'd. In every way - even my jealousies have been agonies of Love, in the hottest fit I ever had I would have died for you. I have vex'd you too much. But for Love! Can I help it? You are always new. The last of your kisses was ever the sweetest; the last smile the brightest; the last movement the gracefullest. When you pass'd my window home yesterday, I was fill'd with as much admiration as if I had then seen you for the first time. You uttered a half complaint once that I only lov'd your Beauty. Have I nothing else then to love in you but that? Do not I see a heart naturally furnish'd with wings imprison itself with me? No ill prospect has been able to turn your thoughts a moment from me. This perhaps should be as much a subject of sorrow as joy - but I will not talk of that. Even if you did not love me I could not help an entire devotion to you: how much more deeply then must I feel for you knowing you love me. My Mind has been the most discontented and restless one that ever was put into a body too small for it. I never felt my Mind repose upon anything with complete and undistracted enjoyment - upon no person but you. When you are in the room my thoughts never fly out of window: you always concentrate my whole senses. The anxiety shown about our Love in your last note is an immense pleasure to me; however you must not suffer such speculations to molest you any more: not will I any more believe you can have the least pique against me. Brown is gone out -- but here is Mrs Wylie -- when she is gone I shall be awake for you. -- Remembrances to your Mother.Your affectionate, Bibash Dong

LOVE

2009-12-07T01:10:00.000-08:00

Love is everyone

This is a game to play with your friends, and for them to play with their friends. Never enough to be crowded; never so few to be alone. You can make your mark, but as in life, it’s not a contest. It’s not about who you are; it’s about the things you do. There is a small planet waiting for you to explore. There is an empire waiting for you to overthrow.

Love is evolving

The world is worth changing, so get on with it. Take your mates and make your planet whatever you want it to be. Some of it is yours, and some is your friends. Some just happens by itself. Sometimes it disappears and makes you sad. But then again, you know that kind of thing can’t last. It’s a balancing act between love and loneliness.

Love is an endeavor

What could be better than you and your mates on an adventure for the benefit of everyone? Play whenever you want, make your mark, then come back later and see how it’s changed. There is always something new to discover, someplace you haven’t seen. Love is not a casual thing you need to take seriously – it’s the most serious thing, in a casual way. If Love isn’t easy, you’re doing it wrong.

Love is yours

You won’t be told a story, but you will get to live one. It’s not what is given to you, it’s what you do when you hold it. The more you give, the more you get. Love your planet, and everyone who’s on it. We know you can, so just go for it. It’s the right thing to do, and you know it.
Love is being developed by Eskil alone, without funding or support. He is responsible for all code, design, networking, engine, art, pipeline and tools. More than just being an experiment in game design, Love is also an experiment in how games can be developed drastically more efficient using technologies like Verse, procedural generation, new tools and a host of other clever solutions.

THANK YOU!

2009-12-07T01:08:00.000-08:00

Love is everyone
This is a game to play with your friends, and for them to play with their friends. Never enough to be crowded; never so few to be alone. You can make your mark, but as in life, it’s not a contest. It’s not about who you are; it’s about the things you do. There is a small planet waiting for you to explore. There is an empire waiting for you to overthrow.

Love is evolving
The world is worth changing, so get on with it. Take your mates and make your planet whatever you want it to be. Some of it is yours, and some is your friends. Some just happens by itself. Sometimes it disappears and makes you sad. But then again, you know that kind of thing can’t last. It’s a balancing act between love and loneliness.

Love is an endeavor
What could be better than you and your mates on an adventure for the benefit of everyone? Play whenever you want, make your mark, then come back later and see how it’s changed. There is always something new to discover, someplace you haven’t seen. Love is not a casual thing you need to take seriously – it’s the most serious thing, in a casual way. If Love isn’t easy, you’re doing it wrong.

Love is yours
You won’t be told a story, but you will get to live one. It’s not what is given to you, it’s what you do when you hold it. The more you give, the more you get. Love your planet, and everyone who’s on it. We know you can, so just go for it. It’s the right thing to do, and you know it.

Love is being developed by Eskil alone, without funding or support. He is responsible for all code, design, networking, engine, art, pipeline and tools. More than just being an experiment in game design, Love is also an experiment in how games can be developed drastically more efficient using technologies like Verse, procedural generation, new tools and a host of other clever solutions.

-Want to mail Eskil? Go ahead.

The Experience of "Being In Love" Is Not The Same For Everyone

2009-12-07T00:53:00.000-08:00

The Experience of "Being In Love" Is Not The Same For Everyone
Not everyone experiences love in exactly the same manner.

Research has shown that love comes in several different forms or styles (see, Lee and Regan). For the most part, people experience love as a blend of two or three of the styles listed below. Essentially, people have different notions of what it means to "be in love."

Styles of Love:

Eros – some people experience love with a lot of passion, intimacy and intensity. Love based on Eros has a strong sexual and emotional component. People who experience love this way want to be emotionally and physically close to their romantic partners and they tend to idealize love. Such love is marked by passion as well as compassion (kindness and consideration). Eros is best viewed as romantic, passionate love - the type of love that creates excitement at the beginning of a new relationship.

Ludus – some people experience love as a game to be played with other people’s emotions. The goal or desire is to gain control over a partner through manipulation. People who experience love as Ludus like to have multiple love interests where they are in complete control. Lying, cheating and deception are common for people who experience love as Ludus – it’s all part of the game. For people who experience love as Ludus, it is satisfying to outwit a partner and exploit his or her weak spots (see, husband plays with my heart, who is likely to cheat, lovefraud).

Storge – some people experience love as a gradual and slow process. When love is based on Storge, getting to know someone comes before having intense feelings for that person. Love based on Storge takes time, it requires genuine liking and understanding of a partner, and it develops slowly over time. Love based on Storge is often compared to the love that one has for a friend. In fact, people who experience love as Storge often fall in love with their friends.

Agape – some people experience love as caregiving. Love is the overwhelming desire to want to take care of a partner - a parental or nurturing type of love. Love based on Agape is attentive, caring, compassionate and kind - a more altruistic or selfless type of love.

Mania – some people experience love as being out of control. Love is an overwhelming experience; it turns one’s life upside down and it results in a complete loss of one’s identity. Love based on Mania is crazy, impulsive and needy. People who experience love as Mania fall in love quickly, but their love tends to consume them. Love experienced as Mania also tends to burnout before it gets the chance to mature. Such love is often marked by extreme delusions, feelings of being out of control, rash decisions, and vulnerability. People who experience love as Mania are easily taken advantage of by people who experience love as Ludus.

Pragma – some people take a practical approach to love. Love is not crazy, intense, or out of control. Love is based on common sense and reason. People who experience love as Pragma tend to pick a suitable mate the way most other people make serious life decisions: picking a partner is based on careful consideration and reason. Practical concerns underlie this type of love.

YOUR LIFE PARTNER

2009-12-07T00:28:00.000-08:00

So you are sitting alone, it is Saturday night, and you have nothing to look forward to but the pizza delivery, a can of beer and the box. The world’s beautiful people seem a world away, in the clubs, pubs and fashionable places. Everybody seems to have somebody - except you. And why? You ask yourself, perfectly ordinary, really nice guy, but relationships don’t last, women dump on you more time than you can count, and you are left wondering, why do you even bother to care?
I can answer the last part, first. You bother because you are a nice guy, and because you want the perfectly ordinary things in life, a relationship, someone in your life who cares and you can care for. It is that simple, and unfortunately the crux of the problem. Have you ever noticed that all the girls you seem to like, always fall for the wrong types of guys - the not-nice ones? I know it seems that way, and no matter how nice you seem to be about it, you just know these girls that you like, are going to be hurt, and yet they still don’t seem to notice you. Okay, well now it is time to do something about it.

First, lets do a quick check-list. First off all hygiene, are you freshly showered, clean and tidy, check. Are you dressed in clothing suitable for your look, check. This is an important point, because you can’t all look like Jean Claude Van Damme or Robbie Williams, but you can look as good as you can. Now, before you run out of the door to find Ms Right, ask yourself a few questions. Firstly, what are you honestly looking for? Be realistic.
Next, where are you looking? If you are a quiet chap who loves
to read or spend time on the computer, is it really a good idea to go to the nightclub to find your soul mate? Girls that go to nite-spots regularly and enjoy drinking and the ‘high-life’, are not going to stop just because they have you. If you prefer parks, your soul-mate is not going to be in the disco. Think about where you are looking for your friend, because number one, for a relationsip to last, that is what she is going to have to be.
Lastly, be happy with yourself. It really doesn’t matter what you look like, or what you do for a living, what honestly counts is that you are happy in your skin. If you like who you are, then others will be attracted to that, and in time, one of those will be your life partner. Be a friend, Be yourself, and your time will come. Meanwhile have fun with your life, it's too short to waste.

FREE LOVESTYLE

2009-12-06T21:38:00.000-08:00

Well Come to Free Love Style!

INTRODUCTION

Would you like to be the great lover you’ve always dreamed of being? Would you like women to sing your sexual praises? Do you want your penis to be as large as it possibly can be? Would you like the ejaculatory control to last as long as you want? Are firmer, more reliable erections on your wish list? And would you like your relationship to feel more erotic, both in and out of bed? You can gain all these sexual benefits--and more--without a great deal of effort. Great Sex explains how.
Before I reveal the surprisingly simple secret of great sex, I should mention that I’m not a doctor, psychologist, or sex therapist. But for 30 years, I’ve been a sex educator, counselor, and journalist specializing in men’s sexuality. During that time I’ve interviewed the nation’s leading sex researchers and therapists, and have written extensively about sexuality, particularly about men’s sexual issues. For five years, I answered the sex questions submitted to the Playboy Advisor. For the past six years Iíve answered the questions submitted to Xandria.com, the Web site of the nationís largest marketer of sex toys.
The information in this book comes not only from my three decades of research and writing, but also from the leading resources in sexology and sex therapy. Central to this volume are the two largest and most comprehensive American sex surveys completed to date: the landmark 1994 “Sex in America” survey from the University of Chicago, which involved a representative sample of 3,150 men and women aged 18 to 59, and the National Sexual Health Survey, a 1996 study from the University of California, San Francisco, based on interviews with a representative sample of 8,000 Americans ages 18 to 80. I also distilled information from 51 books and 374 medical journal articles--they’re listed on this site. Great Sex also benefited from the assistance of four of the nation’s most distinguished sex therapists, who are quoted throughout the book.
With three decades of experience as a sex educator and all these resources, I like to think I’ve learned a thing or two about lovemaking, notably, the surprisingly simple secret of great sex. This secret is the central message of this book: Stop trying to imitate what you see in pornography--the rushed, mechanical sex that’s entirely focused on the genitals. Instead, cultivate the opposite of porn: leisurely, playful, creative, whole-body, massage-based lovemaking that includes the genitals, but is not obsessed with them.
Porn is all-genital, all the time--and that badly messes men up in bed. When you stop trying to imitate porn, most of your sex problems disappear, notably, involuntary ejaculation (coming too soon), erection difficulties, and trouble ejaculating at all. The reason is that our bodies evolved to work best sexually in the context of leisurely, playful, whole-body sensuality. Unfortunately, the sex model most accessible to most men is pornography, and familiarity breeds imitation. Imitating porn hurts also men another way: It makes them lousy lovers. With so many men trying to imitate porn, it’s no wonder that according to the “Sex in America” survey, one-quarter of women have difficulty expressing orgasm during partner sex, or can’t come at all.
The sexual approach I advocate happens to be the way the vast majority of women prefer to make love. In every major sex survey, women voice the same complaints: Men are too rushed, too mechanical, and too narrowly focused on T&A. In other words, men try to imitate porn. Every major sex survey agrees that most women wish men would expand their erotic horizons beyond the genitals and adopt a lovestyle based on whole-body, massage-inspired sensuality. Most women consider the entire body--every square inch--one big erogenous zone, and can’t understand why so many men explore only a few corners of this vast erotic playground. Many women find it impossible to become sexually aroused without whole-body sensuality.
When men give women the lovemaking they prefer, women become more arousable, more responsive, and more enthusiastic, complimentary lovers. They’re more likely to have orgasms, and less likely to say “Not tonight.” In other words, when men jettison porn-style sex and embrace a sensual, creative, whole-body approach to lovemaking, everybody wins. Both your and your lover have more fun in bed and suffer fewer sex problems--not to mention that your relationship is likely to feel more intimate and fulfilling out of bed as well as between the sheets.
Impossible? Not at all. The simple secret of great sex can transform your erotic life for the better--much better--often in just a few weeks. All you have to do is let go once and for all of the idea that sex should proceed the way it does in adult entertainment. Don’t get me wrong. I’m a regular guy just like you. I’ve seen a good deal of porn, and I happen to be an enthusiastic admirer of womenís breasts, butts, and genitals. These wonderful body parts should certainly be included in lovemaking--but not to the exclusion of what really excites her--sensual touch of every other part of her. So from one regular guy to another: Ditch porn-style sex and the many problems it causes in favor of the lovestyle that turns her on, and turns you into the confident, accomplished lover you want to be.
Now about porn: Social liberals defend it as a form of free speech, and some sexuality professionals recommend it to pique erotic interest, or to familiarize people with sexual techniques. Meanwhile, social conservatives excoriate porn as debased, sinful, abusive of women, and evidence of moral decay. Let me state at the outset that in the Great Porn Debate, I side with the liberals. I have no problem with pornography’s unprecedented availability in video shops, on cable TV, and through the Internet, nor do I believe that sexually explicit music lyrics should be restricted. I have two teenagers at home, and I donít care if they listen to songs with sex-drenched lyrics, or view the pornography they can see for free on the Internet (though, when one asked about using my credit card to subscribe to a porn site, I said no).
But the bitter cultural debate about sexually explicit media has missed two key points. First, porn has become the single most important source of menís sex education--actually, their miseducation. Second, pornography is bad for sex. Very bad. It causes or contributes to all of men’s major sex problems: hang-ups about penis size, involuntary ejaculation, erection impairment, and ejaculatory difficulties. It also completely misrepresents how women become sexually aroused and experience erotic fulfillment. Pornography is like the chase scenes in action movies--exciting and fun to watch, but definitely not the way to drive.
Let’s get one thing straight: I’m not down on men. On the contrary, my heart goes out to guys who try to be good lovers but get no real coaching except from adult media. In our society, girls are raised to be sexually passive, despite women’s three-decade march to sexual equality. As a result, young men feel tremendous pressure to know the ins and outs, as it were, of sex, so they can lead their presumably more naive girlfriends in intimate explorations. Few parents discuss the fine points of sex with their sons. At school, if a young man receives any sex education at all, it is confined to sperm, eggs, sexually transmitted infections, the importance of abstinence until marriage, and possibly the various contraceptives. Faced with woefully inadequate sex education at home and in school, what do guys do? They fall back on the resources available to them--other poorly informed young men, and pornography, which ignores whole-body sensuality, and instead, features men with elephantine penises and women who can never get enough.
One phrase commonly used to describe the sexual divide between men and women is The Battle of the Sexes. It’s time to declare a truce. Since the mid-1960s when William Masters, M.D., and Virginia Johnson developed modern sex therapy, it has become abundantly clear why so many couples’ sex lives have been agony instead of ecstasy. The rushed, mechanical, all-genital lovestyle most men learn at the curbside, in the locker room, and from pornography causes men’s sex problems and ignores women’s erotic needs.
It’s possible that to resolve your sexual concerns, you might require a prescription or several months of sex therapy. But for all the anguish sexual difficulties cause, sex is pretty straightforward, and many problems, perhaps most, can be resolved with self-help.
Of course, there is no dearth of sexual self-help books. But only Great Sex is organized around the simple secret of great sex. In our sex-obsessed culture, it’s a sad commentary that this simple secret remains such a mystery. Men need to slow down, understand women’s real sexuality--not the nonsense depicted in porn--and appreciate leisurely, playful, whole-body sensuality. If you do, here’s what I guarantee: You’ll suffer fewer sex problems. The woman in your life will be more sexually responsive. And both of you will feel happier with each other and more erotically fulfilled. Thank You!
Best of luck